I understand that many widows and widowers may not be ready to talk to someone about their pain, cost might be an issue, or they’re not comfortable sharing their feelings with another person. I get all of that. I too wasn’t willing to confide in someone else. I didn’t want to feel the vulnerability it involves. I also didn’t want anyone telling me I’m grieving wrong – which, by the way, was a wrong way of thinking. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. We all grieve differently and on our own schedule.
One of the ways I came to grips with my husband’s passing was by blogging (writing/journaling) my feelings. Whether you’re blogging or keeping a journal, getting your feelings out by writing them down is a powerful way to release your pain. There’s no right or wrong way to write. There are no rules. Simply pick up a pen, get some paper and start jotting down words, sentences – ANYTHING to get you going. No rules. No spell check. No grammar check. Just you, a pen/pencil, and paper (Or create a blog. I can help you with that).
To get you started, my e-workbook, 21 + Grief and Healing Journaling Prompts, gives you some structured writing exercises that will allow you to work through your pain. In between doing the writing exercises, work on your own creative free writing.
Purchase “Releasing Grief Through Journaling” as a downloadable PDF